Cutting Off From Fusion
Whose Life Is It Anyway? “THERE IS NO DIFFERENTIATION WITHOUT CONNECTION. ‘F*ck you! I don’t care what you think’ is rebellion and reactivity, not differentiation.” — Betty Carter Goals of growing...
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How to Get Off the Road to Nowhere “Where you come from is gone, where you thought you were going to never was there, and where you are is no good unless you can get away from it. Where is there a...
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A Systemic Lack of Responsibility for Self “… Bowen Theory can be helpful no matter whom the client is!” — Kevin Cundiff How to develop a drunk in 8 or more easy steps (with apologies to Murray Bowen)?...
View ArticleSystemic Thinking in a Linear World
Seeing the Forest, Not the Trees “I think in circles, not in straight lines” — Padma Desai, LPC, NCC Life is lived in relationship to others. The interaction between any two people is inevitably...
View ArticleDoing “Bowen”Turning Theory into Practice
“There’s nothing so practical as a good theory” — Kurt Lewin We all carry unresolved problems from past life cycle stages with us, into our current situations. At times of family life-cycle transitions...
View ArticleConscious Uncoupling
It’s Not About Gwyneth Paltrow (It’s Not Even About Katherine Woodward Thomas) —- and there is nothing new under the sun — Kohelet 1:9 ‘Conscious Uncoupling’ is not a new concept. Twenty years ago...
View ArticleA Time to Die and a Time to Mourn
Death & The Family Life Cycle The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning — Kohelet 7:4 While taxes may be avoidable, depending on the skill and daring of your accountant and tax attorney,...
View ArticleFamily Palliative Care
Restoring and Maintaining Relationships It is more important to know what sort of person has a disease than to know what sort of disease a person has.” — Hippocrates When a family member develops a...
View ArticleThe Dangers of Launching While Intoxicated
LWI and Arrested Development “There are two ways to deal with anxiety: one is with drugs, the other is with self –self is better” — Murray Bowen, MD In response to a previous blog on the difficulties...
View ArticleIndividual Therapy from a Family Perspective
Conscious Striving for Authentic Adulthood “The development of self occurs … in and through networks of relationships with other members of the family system.” — Murray Bowen, MD How is Bowen Theory...
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